In North America, I have constantly seen people talking about double eyelids on the Internet. They desperately want to believe that East Asians have double eyelid surgery just in order to look more western.
Speaking of cosmetic surgery, the most popular procedures in USA are liposuction, breast augmentation and nose job, while in East Asia, the most popular procedures are liposuction, breast augmentation and double eyelid surgery.
So you see there are similarities and differences. People all want to be slim, women all want big boobs, and white people want to get rid of their big nose and East Asian women want double eyelids.
East Asians' double eyelids is different than Caucasian eyelids. Caucasians, strictly speaking, have the look of "double eyelids" because of their deepset eyes and protruding eyebrow bones, and thus when they open their eyes, look upcast, it looks like they have "double eyelids".
However, many East Asians may have a fold, a natural crease above their eyelids, which adds some beauty to the eyes, and which is what those who don't have this may dream about. In Japan, 70% of the population have single eyelids, while in China 70% of the population have double eyelids. In Korea, I believe most people are born with single eyelids because I have seen the kids there ALL having single eyelids.
Double eyelids has actually been an issue only in East Asia, but some white reporters brought this topic back to their country to please its people by relating it to East Asians hoping to look "more white". That's ridiculous.
In USA, there are millions of cosmetic surgery patients who want to get rid of their big nose, but they do not necessarily want to look more oriental. Likewise, an oriental woman who would like to have bigger eyes may not want to look more American.
Therefore, cosmetic surgery is all about looking more beautiful; its nothing to do with looking like one race. That's what some people who feel insecure about themselves might like to believe.
Ego, Attitude and Loneliness
I'm sure there are millions of lonely hearts in the world.
I believe that while many people choose to be alone without feeling lonely, many others can't help being alone and feeling lonely.
People with attitude are very likely to stay lonely, since they build up a fortress to surround themselves, to defend themselves from being hurt. Attitude always goes with ego, which always goes with insecurities, sensitivity and vulnerabilities. Sometimes it may also be a reflection of an unpleasant past experience.
As I have observed, those who seem to have an attitude are not very happy, even though they crave for attention, friendship and love as much as anyone else. They have very few good friends, and are hardly gratified with their love life.
People were not born with attitude. For them, attitude is a conditional reflex, as a way to protect their self-esteem, when they assume a certain person they will confront may have an attitude.
No human beings can live alone. Happiness often lies in how well one interacts with people surrounding him or her, and yet loneliness and isolation certainly won't bring happiness. To achieve happiness, we need to live truthfully, to approach those who cross our path without a disguise and with an open heart.
Attitude that comes from ego is bad, as it will hurt others and yet it won't do good to you, either.
I believe that while many people choose to be alone without feeling lonely, many others can't help being alone and feeling lonely.
People with attitude are very likely to stay lonely, since they build up a fortress to surround themselves, to defend themselves from being hurt. Attitude always goes with ego, which always goes with insecurities, sensitivity and vulnerabilities. Sometimes it may also be a reflection of an unpleasant past experience.
As I have observed, those who seem to have an attitude are not very happy, even though they crave for attention, friendship and love as much as anyone else. They have very few good friends, and are hardly gratified with their love life.
People were not born with attitude. For them, attitude is a conditional reflex, as a way to protect their self-esteem, when they assume a certain person they will confront may have an attitude.
No human beings can live alone. Happiness often lies in how well one interacts with people surrounding him or her, and yet loneliness and isolation certainly won't bring happiness. To achieve happiness, we need to live truthfully, to approach those who cross our path without a disguise and with an open heart.
Attitude that comes from ego is bad, as it will hurt others and yet it won't do good to you, either.
Who Really Care About Us?
I know sometimes, in order to survive, to earn a living, to love and to be loved, we have to sell ourselves and may seem to have a lot to show off.
But most people don't really care who I am, or who you are... They neither love you nor hate you. They see you as no different than a tree, a cluster of grass, a stone or a bird.
We may struggle for the attention, respect or recognition we think we deserve, but we are not living for most other people. We are living only for ourselves and for the very few who really care about you.
It's more than enough to have a family to hold on to and a few really good, genuine friends.
But most people don't really care who I am, or who you are... They neither love you nor hate you. They see you as no different than a tree, a cluster of grass, a stone or a bird.
We may struggle for the attention, respect or recognition we think we deserve, but we are not living for most other people. We are living only for ourselves and for the very few who really care about you.
It's more than enough to have a family to hold on to and a few really good, genuine friends.
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